All the young dudes
Carry the news
Boogaloo dudes
Carry the news
My Facebook friend Judi ran a FB entry the other day that I believe has been long-needed. As I’m sure Judi’s dance-card was always pretty full in her single days, it’s only fair she should offer some wisdom in the manner of dating tips for girls. And so she did.
As I found Judi’s idea interesting I concluded that young males should not be left out of the mix and since I, like Judi, have a bit of experience in the field, I have risen to the task.
The points I offer arise from the fact I didn’t spend all my Saturday nights sitting home alone, even if sometimes I felt like I did. Indeed, I do have a bit of romantic experience with females and I remain unjaded about the matter.
Anyway, should I be asked to mentor a young man in matters de l’amour, I would ask such a novitiate in the field to judiciously consider the points I make and I have taken it upon myself to bring you these in no particular order:
– Destiny: you just might meet the one you are destined for in terms of the love-of-your-life about 11-minutes after you’ve made a firm commitment to somebody else.
– That person will go away – but she’ll never really leave.
– Femmes fatales: This is a French reference for a woman who will tear out your heart, soul and guts and steadfastly refuse to go away from your feelings. She breaks up relationships and marriages mainly because you’ll let her, you putz. A famous writer once suggested that there is a potential FF in every male’s life, but the fortunate ones never meet her. Those who do will always be impacted, for good or for bad.
– Future shock: There is some truth to the cliché wisdom that suggests you take a look at your new lady love’s mother if you want to see her in 25 years. Mind you, if her Mom’s really hot then you should look forward to a pleasing future. If Mom’s not, well what can I say?
– Unrequitedness: It means what it says – Not requited. You could look it up, but understand no matter how many feverish fantasies and sleepless nights you have endured over visions of ‘her’, your passion is not returned. She’s not into you. Get over her.
– Infatuation: This is a chameleon of love in that it’s a pretty decent facsimile and seems to have all the trappings of the real thing. It doesn’t. It’s much less secure and potentially dangerous. But, it can be fun. Stick within this realm before you make any genuine commitment and you’ll be OK.
– When: Personally I don’t think any male should consider a permanent bond until he has gained some life experience. Say, by about age 35. Really. A year after my first marriage (I was only 25) we took a trip to Europe. On a railway platform in Munich I was approached by a young female (who was arguably one of the more stunning people on the planet) who informed me that her traveling companion had abandoned her and would I like to travel with her. “Yes, please” was the first thought that crossed my mind. And then my wife came back from the bathroom and asked me who was that person I was talking to.
– Crushes: Kind of ‘infatuations lite’. You’ll get those all your life. Get used to them. But never, ever, ever take them seriously unless you relish a chaotic life.
– Money: Are you set to embark on a life together even though you are both as poor as churchmice and have no discernable means of earning a living other than your respective ‘McJobs’? Get real.
– Ardor: Great at the start. Best thing in the world. Surprisingly honeymoons do come to an end and things settle down. This is actually a good thing, even if it might not seem so at the time and especially if your timetable is different from hers. You’ll get used to it – or not.
OK, boys. Now you are well-armed with my fatherly advice and I just might even consider applying some of those gems to myself. They just might work.
I might add that the male character in the illustration above bears abolutely no resemblance to the author.
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